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I came across this article today and wanted to pass it along. This couple has lived a long time together and has built a legacy. Notice what they said was the key (their faith in Jesus).
Join me for today's show where I talk about the role of the father as a priest in his home. Learn about the three roles of a priest (a worship leader, a consecrated example, and an intercessor) and how these three roles can be played out in the context of ones home and family.
In this show I talk about the role of the father as prophet. A prophet of God is one who speaks God's Word with faith and persuasion. As such, the father is to speak to his family God's message for them with faith and persuasion. This can be done in many way in this show I talk about 6 of them. In other words here are six ways or means being a prophet to your family.
The father is to serve in his family as King, Prophet, and Priest. In this show you will hear some ways in which the father can exercise his role as king in his home. Join me as we look at 5 ways the father does this.
The father leads his family
The father provides for his family
The father protects his family
The father is policy maker and enforcer for his family
In this show I talk about the third of eight forms of capital identified by Ethan C. Roland of Appleseed Permaculture which is Financial Capital. Join me as I talk about:
The typical American family buys a huge house but spends little time in it. This is because we have gradually delegated away and outsourced many of the activities that are suppose to be done in the home. In this show I discuss nine of these activities that need to be brought home. Join me as a discuss the following:
In this episode you will hear a short discussion about sixteen principles that we try to follow in our home to keep order. Many of these principles are direct applications from the ten commands and others are general biblical principles. Some of them are simply practical. My goal is that you take these and adapt them to your home to help order your household. The sixteen principles discussed are:
You will seek the Glory God above all else.
You will be treated to the level of your displayed maturity
You will reap what we sow.
You will be responsible for your own and others property that you use.
You will speak the truth to one another in love.
You will complete your work before you play.
You will get more freedom as you show more responsibility.
You will obey your parents; quickly, completely, and joyfully
You will treat others kindly according to the golden rule.
You will limit your actions according to the environment.
You will be generous with your time and possessions
You will be courageous in your attempts
You will engage in constructive activities when you have idle time on your hands
You will use the computer for production, instruction, or communication (except for the one hour of electronic entertainment per day.)
You will not expect equal shares or fairness
You will disciple yourself to follow these principles or be disciplined by someone else.
On any given Sunday morning in churches across America the family is segregated into different worship services. Typically, if the children are in the "adult worship service" at all it is only for the first part where there is a lot of singing and then they are dismissed to "children's church". In some churches the children are not in the "adult worship service" at all. I believe that this is the exact opposite of what needs to be done if we are going to leave a spiritual legacy. So in this show I briefly discuss seven reason why the children should be with the adults during worship. If you want to raise children who love the Lord and Love to worship God you don't want to miss this episode.
As is mentioned repeatedly on The Legacy Podcast, a strong marriage is crucial in building a multi-generational legacy of abundance. Unfortunately, marriages do not come without difficulties or problem. Join me for today's show as I address 6 of the biggest problems in marriage and some solutions. Here is the outline:
1) Communication
Problem: Difference between men and women
Typically women need to communicate more with words
Typically women are more emotion in communication
Communicate: no one can read your mind
Don’t assume: Makes an Ass out of You and Me
Consider the other person:
If you are the one who likes to communicate get to the point
If you are the silent type open up
Consider how you communicate your feelings
You.....
Always....never...
Instead use I feel....
2) Money
Problem: Different approach to money
usually one is more of a money cruncher than the other
Dave Ramsey calls this nerd and free spirit
Another problem is different priorities
The wife may want to go out to eat more and the husband may want to spend more on hunting equipment.
Usually the man is more interested in return and the women is more interested in security.
Solution is the Budget
This serves as an agreement, a map, so there can be unity.
Ask how important an issue is on a scale of 1-10 (not everything can be a 10.)
3) Sex
Problems of difference in desire
Usually but not always the husband has a higher desire than the wife.
It is easier for the low desire to rise to the high desire than vice versa
It is possible to develop to the point of loosing this difference
Solution: 1 Cor 7:1-4. Do what you need to do. Do it with all your heart.
Problem of difference in what is wanted
The male and female bodies are different and respond differently to different things. It is important to learn what your spouse likes and do that. This may not always be the same things either
If you do to your spouse what you want it may not be what he she likes best.
light versus no light
learn to compromise: not this time but next time. Trade offs.
Problem of difference in trying something new
Usually one wants to be more creative than the other.
My position: Nothing is off limits as long as it does not violate the Scriptures or is forced upon the other.
The one who wants is more creative: be satisfied and savor what you do get
The one who is less creative: take little steps in creativity.
4) Third Party (Inlaws)
Problem: too much interference from inlaws
Adult child support
Looking to parents rather than spouse to meet need
Ask spouse before going to parents
Problem: comparison
Wives have a tendency to compare their husbands to their dads
Husbands have a tendency to compare their wives to their mothers
Christian comedian Tim Hawkins “things you don’t say to your wife”, something about the cooking not being like moms
Just don’t do it. Either way you are showing disrespect.
Problem: unwanted advice
This is usually a problem of mother-in-laws and daughter-in-laws.
Don’t take it personally
If gets really bad the husband needs to protect his wife.
5) Children
Differences in how many
Should be determined by God
Differences in how often
Should be determined by God
Difference schooling
Should be homeschooled
Differences in discipline
usually one is more lenient than the other
Have agreed upon standards
One is usually more consistent then the other
Be consistent
Don’t let the kids play one off the other.
6) Expectations
Expectation that your spouse will meet all your needs
Only God can do that.
You can change your spouse
You can influence him or her but not change her.
1Pe 3:1-2 NKJV - [1] Wives, likewise, [be] submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, [2] when they observe your chaste conduct [accompanied] by fear.
We are only given so much time in this life in which to build a legacy which means that we need to make the most of every moment. In this episode I share some tips and principles that I have learned about time management. The most important time management principle is knowing what activities fall into which category in the Time Management Chart.
In order achieve a multi-generational legacy of abundance it takes a lot of work from each generation. In this episode I talk about 8 principles that can help teach your kids to work. I first discuss some reasons why it is important to pass on a strong work ethic and then the 8 principles. Here are the 8 principles that are discussed:
In this show you will hear an interview with Eli Jones. I had the privilege of residing over the marriage of Eli and Allison a few years back and was impressed with the process of courtship that they went through. As a result, I wanted to bring him on TLP to talk about courtship. We dialogue around the following questions:
Tell me a little about yourself and your family
What is courtship?
How does it differ from dating?
Why did you choose to court rather than date?
What did you learn in the process of your courtship about the courtship that you didn't know before you started?
What advice would you give to the parents that are listening who have preteen or teenage children who are wanting to date?
What websites, organization, ministries, etc. do you recommend for further study on courtship?
What advice would you give to the single man or woman who came to the idea of courtship late in life and are now living on their own but want to do courtship rather than dating?
In this episode I interview Doug Pruiett who has recently started a family business. I interview him on why and how he started his business with the hope to inspire others to start a family business where the next generation can be discipled, learn a trade, and contribute to society and the church.
Pruiett and Sons is a “father and sons” business that hand-crafts farm-style dining tables, benches, coffee tables, and more.
Doug spent seventeen years as an aerospace engineer at Cape Canaveral, working in the design and testing of long-range nuclear missiles.
In 1996 He went into full-time Christian work as a missionary, then pastor, and now an assistant VP of information technology for a Good News Jail and Prison Ministry.
He has always maintained his engineering interests and work in his Christian assignments. “My sons and I were taught the building and carpentry trades by a master-carpenter for over five years. One of my first lessons was that buildings (and most other things) do not require aerospace tolerances. Once I quit using a micrometer on everything, I began to build some nice things in a reasonable amount of time.”
Episode-48- A Good Father and His Relationship To His Son, John 5:17-31[ 37:43 ]Play Now | Play in Popup | Download (242)
In this episode you will hear a message I delivered at Mt. Tabor Baptist Church for Father's Day from John 5:17-31 on A Good Father and His Relationship to His Son. The outline is as follows:
A Good Father Works with the Son to Accomplish Their Mission 5:17
A Good Father Sets an Example for the Son and the Son Follows It. 5:19-21
A Good Father Loves the Son and the Son Loves the Father 5:20
A Good Father Delegates Responsibility to the Son and the Son Carries It Out Faithfully 5:22, 26-27
A Good Father is Honored and the Son Shares in that Honor 5:23
A Good Father Reveals His Will to the Son and the Son Seeks to Do It. 5:30
In this show I talk about the Consumer side of food legacy. I address 6 considerations for those who are not producing their own food but want to be good stewards of resources
Why this is an important topic?
Not everyone is able to produce significant amounts of their own food.
Join me in this episode as I talk with Scott Brown. Scott T. Brown is the director of the National Center for Family Integrated Churches and elder at Hope Baptist Church in Wake Forest, North Carolina. Scott graduated from California State University in Fullerton with a degree in History and received a Master of Divinity degree from Talbot School of Theology. He gives most of his time to local pastoral ministry, conferences on fatherhood, church reformation, and strengthening the family. He has been married to Deborah for thirty years, and they have four children ages twenty-six, twenty-four, twenty, and seventeen. Scott also helps people think through the two greatest institutions God has provided — the church and the family. He desires to learn what is pleasing to the Lord and to work for continuous reformation of church and family according to Scripture.
In this interview we discuss the following questions:
What trends are you seeing in the church as it relates to the family?
What is the premise of your book A Weed In the Church? What progress is being made in removing the weed?
How is the message being received in the Christian community?
What role does the sufficiency of Scripture play in the issue?
How does the NCFIC help the church and family work through this issue?
What recommendation would you give the family out there who wants to leave a multi-generational legacy of faith but is involved in a typical church?
Be sure to learn more about the resources mentioned on this episode, you can find links to them below:
In this episode I talk about filling your spouses love bank by loving him or her the way he or she wants. This material is taken from Gary Chapman's book The 5 Love Languages and Willard F. Harley, Jr.'s book Fall in Love Stay in Love and revised by me.
Here are the 10 desires that people have in marriage.
The Desire for Affection
The Desire for Communication
The Desire for Domestic support
The Desire for Family Support
The Desire for Financial Support
The Desire for Physical Attractiveness
The Desire for Sexual Fulfillment
The Desire for Spiritual Leadership
The Desire for Time together
The Desire for Unexpected Surprises
What to do?
Find out from your spouse what are his or her top 3-4 desires
Communicate your top 3-4 desires
Make a commitment to work at achieving the top 3-4
Seek to be filled with God’s love so that you do not need the love of spouse to give love.
You can Learn more about the 5 love languages here and purchase the book below
You can Learn more about Fall in Love and Stay in Love at the Marriage Builder website and pruchase the book below
If you liked this episode you would also like Episode 5 on having the B.E.S.T. marriage
In this show we talk about your legacy drawer. This is a folder, drawer, or some other devise that can hold all your important documents. I discuss the reasons for having a legacy drawer as well as what to put into the drawer. You can see a list of most of the items I recommend to include in your legacy file at The legacy Drawer
Be sure to share TLP with your friends on Facebook and Twitter.
Jonathan Edwards is considered the most influential preacher, the greatest thinker, and best theologian American has ever produced. In this show I talk about the legacy of Jonathan Edwards and 8 qualities I think that were large contributing factors in his ability to leave a legacy.
About 70% of Americans do not have a will. 74% of parents with minor children do not have wills. This ought not be. Legacy builders have wills! So today's show is a brief look at 13 reasons to acquire and keep up to date your will. Here are the thirteen reasons to have a will:
1. Property transfer with your direction,
2. Guardian appointment of children by you not the state,
3. Allows differing distributions,
4. Allows for a naming of executor,
5. Can minimize cost and delay of probate
6. Can minimize the estate taxes
7. Delay distributions if needed
8. Bequests can be honored,
9. Business transfer is simpler,
10. Reduces the risk of sibling rivalry,
11. Avoids unnecessary burden on survivors,
12. Allows you to establish domicile,
13. Allows someone else to administer your affairs if you should become unable.
Episode-66- Seven Reasons to Have Family Integrated Worship [ 21:20 ] Play Now | Play in Popup | Download (353)
